9) I'm starting to go through menopause, my husband is teasing me about having to get a younger wife because I will no longer be able to perform my 'wifely duties'. I'm worried about it, you know, being able to stay sexually active. What things might start happening to my body? What can I do about it?
Menopause may be the end of your childbearing years, but it's not the end of your sexuality or femininity. Physical changes do occur, but that doesn't mean that you can't have a happy, healthy sex life, or make your husband think you won't be a complete partner.
During menopause, physical changes can occur that might affect your sex life. Some women experience a decrease in sexual desire. Others enjoy sex more because their worries about pregnancy are gone.
As far as physical changes go, one thing many women deal with at menopause is vaginal dryness. Often, the amount of natural lubricant your body can produce decreases. Dryness can make sex unpleasant, regardless of whether your desire is up or down. To take care of this problem, many commercial lubricants are sold at drugstores, with names like Astroglide or KY Jelly. Though some women are embarrassed to buy these creams, they really can help dryness problems and make sex more fun.
Other physical changes can also interfere with intimacy and sex. Hot flashes and night sweats can make a partner's body heat unwelcome. Moodiness and emotional changes can strain a relationship. Keep in mind that every woman has a different experience of menopause.
There are a lot of ways to deal with menopausal changes. Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), which replaces the hormones that your body stops making at menopause, can help alleviate vaginal dryness, hot flashes, and night sweats. However, taking HRT might increase your chances of having a heart attack or a stroke, and getting certain kinds of cancer.
Other treatments can also help improve your sex life after menopause. If you're having problems with vaginal dryness, your doctor can prescribe you an estrogen cream or estrogen-releasing ring that will help your body to produce lubricant and strengthen weak vaginal tissue. Some women use the herb Black Cohosh or eat soy products, like tofu, to prevent hot flashes and treat dryness.
Menopause, and the changes that come with it, could interfere with your sex life, but they won't shut it down. Though some people think of menopause as the end of woman's sex life, it doesn't have to be. Reassure your husband, you'll be able to perform your "duties." The real question is: can he perform his?
P.S. Women who think they've entered menopause can sometimes be surprised by pregnancy. Even if you think you're too old, talk to your doctor about when to stop using contraceptives. In general, until you've had a year without a period, you could still get pregnant!